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A few months ago Cosmo had an article about post-wedding depression that opened my eyes to what after the wedding could really be like for me.  Post-wedding depression occurs right after the wedding, after all the attention is no longer on you and you have your life back.  Only your life isn’t what you remember, because the last year of it has been consumed by wedding planning.  People stop asking you about the wedding plans, or how you are doing with all of the stress.  Essentially life is normal again - but you just don’t recognize it without all the extra attention and full schedules.

As Blake and I have put this wedding together, I’ve tried very hard to not get all Bridezilla and start demanding outrageous things out of my family and friends.  I’ve tried to be conscious of how I am acting, and to be sure I ask others about their lives and not just spend hours and hours going on about our wedding.  Probably the last few weeks have been worse than before, but I still try to keep myself in check.

So will I have a bit of the post wedding blues?  I think its very possible.  Girls are raised to dream of their wedding day and how fabulous it will be and how beautiful they will look, etc.  So essentially getting married has been a part of my life since I was a little kid.  So when our big day has come to an end, I might feel a bit lost.  While that feeling might be natural and probably okay for a few days, I definitely want to try and curb it so it doesn’t get out of hand.  So here is a list of things I am going to look forward to after the wedding.  I plan to use it as a reminder of how fortunate I am, so that I can drag myself out of any slump I might be stuck in.

1. My big brother’s wedding on June 16th in San Antonio!
2. Our new house should be ready to move into by the end of June
3. Being married to Blake!  My friend Wendy once told me that her marriage has been better and better every day - she has been married not quite 2 years.  I hope Blake and I have that kind of happiness!
4. The upcoming weddings of Novie and Viv, Justin and Maggie, and Kate and Clay.
5. Changing my name (I must confess I’m still torn on this one, but it is exciting nonetheless).
6. The development of the non-profit ballet company His Kids and Company.  So much to do here and I’m excited to be involved as president of the board.

Okay, so that is my list!  If anyone else is getting married, consider making one of your own lists to refer to.  Even if you don’t run into the wedding bell blues, its a good exercise to have a list of everything you are excited about or grateful for.

Yesterday Justin and I were chatting on gmail about the ins and outs of planning a wedding and keeping your sanity at the same time.  It’s a delicate balance.  My friends Lou and Amanda have delcared the only way to get married and not deal with all the planning hoopla and politics is to elope with an orphan.  I agree this is a great policy, but it doesn’t work for either Justin or I at this point.

Then Justin tells me about Maggie’s April Fools joke.  I cannot relay the hilarity enough, so I’ve copied and pasted the chat log.

  4:22 PM justin: right, right.. noted  i was going to play a joke on her on april fool’s and tell her i had reconsidered and everything was off

  but i forgot on april fools day

 me: HAHAHAH

  I can see that would have ended badly for you, I’m glad you forgot

 justin: only b/c two days prior she emailed me at work and told me she was pregnanat

4:23 PM i seriously had a minor heart attack

  and she just laughed and laughed

  i immediately went to the hallway and called her and she goes “april fools”

  even though it was like March 28th

  not funny

4:24 PM me: OH DAMN

  maggie is good!

  hahahahahahahahha

  crap, she’s not online. I was going to commend her on her creativity

4:25 PM  justin: she is in florida

  not creative, mean

  it wasn’t even april fools

4:26 PM 

  so i was seriously worreid for about 1 min

  i was like its not even april fools yet

 me: LOL

 justin: she goes “you would’ve known had i done it on the first”

 me: if she waited until that day it never would have worked!

 justin: all i could think of was that thank god we got trip insurance on our honeymoon

  and how fat she was going to be walking down the aisle

  or that we should run to vegas and elope

 me: HAHAHHA

4:27 PM you are cracking me up

 justin: seriously, a million thoughts through my head in less than 30 seconds

 me: I would be thinking “how are we gonna tell her parents” not “damn she’s gonna be fat in her wedding dress”

 justin: well, that crossed my mind too

  it took me like 10 minutes to get back to normal breathing patterns

  i can’t imagine finding out that info from some ho-bag you slept with on a one night stand

Literally.  I resemble a corpse.  I am a pasty white woman!  Put me next to the Pillsbury Dough Boy and you might have trouble distinguishing who is who (hint - I don’t wear a white hat).

This revelation came to me as I was formatting pictures from my bachelorette party so I could upload them to my gallery.  In just about every picture I had to fix some red eye, and when I zoomed in I was blinded by my whiteness.  I am a ghostly bride to be!  I also make a wide arrange of fun faces.  Trust me.

Enough about my lack of melanin, let’s move on to the bachelorette fiesta.  Several weeks ago my matron of honor and two of my bridesmaids got together to throw a lingerie shower and party for me - and I have to say they did a fantastic job!  They threw a party that completely resembled my style - lots of food, lots of talking, lots of alcohol, and some bowling.  Yes I said bowling, and I know you are jealous.  Seriously, I don’t ever go to the bar or clubs anymore - it really was never my style.  So when Jessica asked where I wanted to go for the party, I knew bowling was the answer.  There is alcohol, music videos playing above the lanes, the chance to take out your aggression on 10 pins, and of course alcohol.

Rather them ramble on and on about how much fun I had, I’ll let the pictures do the talking.  See the whole gallery here.  A big thanks to everyone who was able to make it out for the fun, I had a blast and I hope we can make girls bowling night a regular event!

Where have I been?  I’ll tell you where!  Laptop hell!  In the middle of my last attempt to post, my old laptop and I had a disagreement that caused me to lose several pictures and all of my patience.  The laptop is 5 years old now and randomly shuts itself down.  Since it isn’t exactly living up to my high IT standards anymore, I decided it was time for a new machine.  I picked up a new Toshiba Satellite last week and I’m quite happy with it.  It’s a wide screen, which is a whole new world!  It also has the handy new “TruBrite” display that is way more fabulous than my other two laptops.  Yes, I said other two laptops.  My desk is a bit crowded.

I’m still in the process of converting over to the new Toshiba, but thought I would give my faithful readers an update as to where the heck I was.  As soon as I’ve got this thing ready to go, a new post about my bachelorette extravaganza will be up for your reading pleasure!